One of the many ways we are stressed in our lives is a result of incongruence. Incongruence is the difference between your ideal self and real self.
Some of you may recall this topic if you ever studied Freud and Self-actualization. Without getting too psychoanalytical I’ll sum this up as this: the greater the rift between who you are and who you think you should be, the greater the stress.
We are at harmony when our ideal and real selves are consistent. When we have a job we love and are proud of, when our family life is running the way we want it to, and when our actions are in line with our goals then we are congruent. Take a quick moment to think of the people you admire most in this world. I wager their lives are very congruent, they do what they say, they say what they do, and they are at peace with who they are. Congruence is indicative of personal and intellectual strength.
Incongruence on the other hand causes discomfort and stress. This energy can be manufactured and harnessed for good. [Read the rest of this entry...]